Should vs. Must, Thanksgiving, Sepanx

Follow what I feel I must do vs. what I think others think I should do.

If you recall, I’ve historically been a “Should” girl - I should have done this; I should have done that. I read this article entitled “The Crossroads of Should and Must” and am figuring out how I can be a “Must” girl instead.

Should is how others want us to show up in the world — how we’re supposed to think, what we ought to say, what we should or shouldn’t do.

Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. 

For weeks, months, years, I implicitly tell myself that I should have done this, and should be getting these grades, and I should already be at a certain stage in life - not realizing that the root of the should was a projection of what I perceived others expected from me. I think it’s easy to fall into the trap, growing up in a society where standing out, dropping out of school, taking an unconventional artistic life, “failing” in a startup, following the riskier, unbeaten path equates to being the talk of the town.

I instead want to follow what I feel I must do vs. what I think others think I should do.

I’m bubbling up the courage to jump into what I feel I must do, what I feel I have no other choice but to do, what I believe is my truest self. A powerful switch of language that will do me wonders as I contemplate startup life.

👍 What went well: Thanksgiving!

In the spirit of thanksgiving, I want to thank YOU for being a subscriber and, I assume, a reader of this post (by nature of your reading this very line!) Given the intended intimate nature of this subscriber base, you’re also likely a significant figure in my life, and I want to thank you for being a part of it :)

We capped off our spectacular time @ the Maker Manor. I’m so thankful I said YES to this adventure - and have gotten a goofy set of new friends from it. Nick and I are now contemplating doing month-long stays in these hacker houses for early 2021… stay tuned.

We then drove down to LA to visit my cousin, Ate Kat, her husband Patrick and my Tita Nini (+Walter, their little schnauzer). We played Consensus, sang horrible karaoke, hot-tubbed, hiked to the Hollywood sign, & made homemade pizzas. I always LOVE being with family and was so thankful to spend the Thanksgiving holiday with them. After the trip, even Nick ended up telling me “I miss your family.”

I miss them, too!

Peep our delish meals and awesome adventures.

👎 What could be better: Sepanx

Leaving the Maker Manor + family in LA was a double whammy of separation anxiety this past week. Hoping that won’t be for long as we

👉 What’s up next: Planning planning planning!

This weekend’s pretty busy - I’m planning our Cognity Labs fellowship program for Southeast Asia founders & the usual host for several group holiday parties & figuring out what Nick and I are going to do during our 2+week holiday break! Busy busy busy but excited for my favorite time of the year!

👌 Nudges of the Week

Thankful for you,